Is it true when people said that "love is blind'?
Love is not literally blind, but it blinded the ones who are in love.
Sometimes people choose to stay or to stick around with a particular person who hurts them. No matter how much or how many times that person hurts him or her, s/he keeps coming back to the same person. Why?
Because they are in love.
I remembered a friend who let herself to be drown in love. Lots of girls experienced that, including me. Just the degree of how much u let that person hurts u (or trashes u) is different. I always see girls who let themselves to be fooled, to be taken advantage of, to be treated like a sex machine and what do these girls do? They just LET the guys do whatever they like. Maybe the girls will be mad, crying and fighting. BUT that's just in a matter of time or should i say in a blink of an eye, and they will go back to that same bastard again and again.
I remembered a friend who let herself to be drown in love. Lots of girls experienced that, including me. Just the degree of how much u let that person hurts u (or trashes u) is different. I always see girls who let themselves to be fooled, to be taken advantage of, to be treated like a sex machine and what do these girls do? They just LET the guys do whatever they like. Maybe the girls will be mad, crying and fighting. BUT that's just in a matter of time or should i say in a blink of an eye, and they will go back to that same bastard again and again.
It seems like 'Love blinded u from the reality'. The reality to realize that u deserve better and the truth that u shouldn't be treated in a way that hurts u. When u r in love, ure not only shutting urself from reality, but u shut ur ears from listening, shut ur eyes from seeing, shut ur mouth from speaking on ur rights and shut ur heart to understands. Even though it is crystal clear that the person is of no good, but u keep denying the fact that he is bad for u, cuz u love him. Or should I say "living in a denial".
Generally speaking, most of the times we crave for something sweet even when we know that it is not good for us. (Just like how some girls are attracted to bad boys.) Sometimes we are addicted to it to the extent that our lives start to revolve around it. (Just like how they start to leave or forgotten their family and friends, only to be with the one they 'love') And when its gone, we started to suffer cuz we want more although in reality we face a lot more of suffering when we are close to it.
Same goes to a meaningless relationship or "friends for benefit". Personally I wont call this kind of relationship as out of love but i would say that its out of foolness and stupidity. Just like when a girl let a guy took advantage of her. Took advantage in a sense of letting him harm u emotionally or physically. FYI, a guy wont ever do that if the girls wont let him. So, the question here is that, why would she let him do such things? Is it out of love? Then she shouldn't be in love if love somehow makes a well mannered and a well educated person into a fool or a person with no dignity.
That is not a kind of 'love' that we need. And that shouldn't be the kind of 'love' that we want either. Girls, when u have the sense to say 'NO' then go ahead and say it. Even though women do not have the strength of a man but Allah is fair, so He gave us women the power called "instinct". Believe in ur heart and ur instinct. Because our instinct is our best judgement.
Dont be confused between what ur thinking with ur instinct because the difference is ur instinct comes genuinely from ur heart, a feeling given by Allah to guide u but what ure thinking is not always right because anything or anyone may messes with ur head. Mostly our biggest enemy, the devil itself. So, if somehow u have experienced this, just get up and move forward. Take this kind of experience as a lessons to make u stronger and better. There are no bad memories. There are only good memories and lessons for us to learn from. Our lives is short. Make the best out of it. Because life is too short to be spent on the unnecessary things and the uncertainty of a relationship.
Dont be confused between what ur thinking with ur instinct because the difference is ur instinct comes genuinely from ur heart, a feeling given by Allah to guide u but what ure thinking is not always right because anything or anyone may messes with ur head. Mostly our biggest enemy, the devil itself. So, if somehow u have experienced this, just get up and move forward. Take this kind of experience as a lessons to make u stronger and better. There are no bad memories. There are only good memories and lessons for us to learn from. Our lives is short. Make the best out of it. Because life is too short to be spent on the unnecessary things and the uncertainty of a relationship.
WHY choose to settle down and accept a gf/bf/partner who is an "average", if u could be with someone who is better. There are lots of good guys/ girls out there waiting the chance to meet u, just that u are not fated to meet him/her yet. Love will comes at the right moment when u are fully ready and wise to appreciate urself. People will appreciate u when u appreciate urself. This is by taking care of everything about urself,such are ur dignity, ur relationship with ur family, ur studies and the best is ur relationship with Allah.
Because when u r good with HIM, He will let u encounter someone who loves Him as much as u loves Him. Hence, He is the key. Start looking back at ur own self because ur partner will be ur own reflections, because Allah has said that a good person will have a good partner and a bad person will have a bad person as his or her partner. That's how it works. As easy as that. So u have the power to change that and to get whatever kind of a partner that u want to be with.
Because when u r good with HIM, He will let u encounter someone who loves Him as much as u loves Him. Hence, He is the key. Start looking back at ur own self because ur partner will be ur own reflections, because Allah has said that a good person will have a good partner and a bad person will have a bad person as his or her partner. That's how it works. As easy as that. So u have the power to change that and to get whatever kind of a partner that u want to be with.
#some.notes: Why settle down for a "5" when u can possibly get a "10"? Cheers and goodluck!~ :)
