In reply of the last post, "To be or not to be". There are some main points that I would like to highlight pertaining to the matters seen in the post.
FIRST - WEARING HIJAB
Well, after reading this competition (?), or debate, it's not really about who wins or who lose, it's more about the major things that are being discussed. Clearly, bertudung or wearing hijab is what Muslim women have to embrace as it is one of the requirements in Islam. Muslim women are required to cover their aurah, which is only to show their face and hands (to the wrist) to man who are not their mahram. In this case, yeah of course Muslim women should cover their aurah and wearing hijab.
This command by Allah SWT is mentioned in Surah An-Nuur, verse 31 in the Qur'an.
SECOND - ONLY ALLAH JUDGES
I would like to have some say on some of the comments given by Muslimah, a.k.a the "good ones" and Tini Pinky, the "not-so-good".
Tini Pinky: Semua yang tutup aurat, kompom masuk syurga ke?
Is it confirmed that people who covers their aurah would enter heaven?
Muslimah: Yang pasti, tak tutup aurat, kompom masuk neraka... :)
Surely those who don't cover their aurah will enter Hell... :)
The first comment really triggers my mind and emotion. Im like Whaaa?? This is outrageous people! Ok, looking at Muslimah's intention, it's clear that she wanted to preach (berdakwah) to her Muslim sister who is not wearing hijab. But, her way of preaching is incorrect and unacceptable. In my opinion, she is being judgmental and mean to tini pinky.
Allah SWT is the sole Judge, only He has the rights to judge whether a person is going to heaven or hell. Real success or failure in Akhirah is only to be determined by Allah. Allah is the Judge and He will judge the people for indeed we do not know what is in the hearts of others, rather Allah knows what is in the breasts of mankind.
Well, obviously we live in a society that is based on judging others. Often time, we tend to judge other people. We may look for a reason to pass judgement by finding faults and mistakes of others. We think we know others' intentions or where their heart stands.
However, in reality, ask yourself, "Who are we to judge others?". As Muslims, we want the best for our Muslim brothers and sisters. Clearly, people judge other people based on appearance which is more inclined to stereotyping and bias. What happens to "Husnu Zon"? or making good excuses. Islam encourages Muslims to think positive about other people no matter they are Muslims or non-Muslims.
For example, when we see a woman who is not wearing hijab, we quickly assumed that she is not a good person. Again, "Who are we to judge?", that person maybe has a higher status in Allah's eye and greater hearts compared to us and she may not be wearing hijab now, but in the future, who knows, she may be someone who's better than us.
For example, when we see a woman who is not wearing hijab, we quickly assumed that she is not a good person. Again, "Who are we to judge?", that person maybe has a higher status in Allah's eye and greater hearts compared to us and she may not be wearing hijab now, but in the future, who knows, she may be someone who's better than us.
No doubt that as Muslims, it is our duty to advise others and to command the good as wells as forbid evil. Instead of passing judgement on them, we should advise them in a good way. Not by being mean and forceful. Treat others as how you want yourself to be treated, want the best for other Muslim brothers and sisters as what you want for yourself.
Imam Ghazali stated, "The hypocrite looks for faults, the believer looks for excuses (Husnu zon),". Rasulullah SAW told us that we would not attain faith until we love one another. Make dua' and love for one another. He (SAW) also told us that one is not a believer until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.
Imam Ghazali stated, "The hypocrite looks for faults, the believer looks for excuses (Husnu zon),". Rasulullah SAW told us that we would not attain faith until we love one another. Make dua' and love for one another. He (SAW) also told us that one is not a believer until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.
THIRD - WORDS OF WISDOM
Words are powerful weapons. They can lift up someone's soul, motivates and inspire them. However word becomes unnecessary if somehow it discourage people to enjoin goods and encourage people to do evil. Your words describe your heart and your personality.
In this case, after reading the first few sentence of the debate, I didn't even bother to read more, but in order for me to have deeper understanding on the debate, I have to read the whole post. Anyway, from what I have seen, it's obvious that Tini Pinky is lacking of knowledge about Islam, and trying to make tons of excuses about not wearing hijab. On the other hand, Muslimah was so demanding and judging, in the article, she said that Tini Pinky is a hypocrite and questioned Tini Pinky's Ibadah, whether it is going to be accepted by Allah or not and so on so forth. Again, "Who are you to judge, you aren't God, only He Knows". Thus, I'm not really on either sides, but Muslimah, please choose your words wisely.
Muslimah's way of preaching is unbelievably so annoying. It's no surprise that Tini Pinky or any other girls out there who are not wearing hijab now, wouldn't think of wearing hijab later. I mean, anyone would feel offended by her (Muslimah), it's obvious. If I'm in Tini Pinky's shoes, I would feel so offended by her, and obviously she is rude. Like how are you going to encourage people to follow your way or what you say if you act in a manner that is forceful and offensive? Her words discourage people like Tini Pinky to wear hijab. That's why it is no suprise if Tini Pinky is not going to wear hijab after being criticized like that.
One way to preach is to be a role model yourself. By the way, YOU ARE WHAT YOU PREACH. So, if you want people to change to be a better person (or to be just like you), you have to make them fall for you, literally make them fall in love with your behaviour, character and attitude. If a person loves the way you handle yourself (given any situations), the way you live and the way you interact with him/her, surely it's easier for them to accept whatever it is that you want to advise them. Show kindness and good behaviour, sooner or later, that person will want to be better. InsyaAllah...
Lastly, words determines your character, speak with wisdom and right intentions. Think positive and stop being negative. Besides, what are the benefits of being negative? None, and it's sinful. While being positive towards other people will entitle you to Allah's blessing. InsyaAllah... :)
